"Mind reading, fortune telling, assuming - we think
we can read other peoples minds and feelings, or foretell the future, and
then act as if what we assume is the reality. We often create self-fulfilling
prophecies this way."
"There is an additional way in which women are wounded by their fathers
that I have never heard, or read, anyone talk about. It is a devastating
blow that many daughters suffer on a subconscious level."
"'Poor' Adam, who was just being a man (that is, he just wants to get
in Eve's pants) does what Eve wants him to and eats the apple. So
Eve gets the blame for Adam not having boundaries. Now is that stupid or
what? And you wondered where Codependence started."
"Like most great insights, it was amazingly simple and obvious.
It was to me earth shattering/paradigm busting in it's impact. The
insight was: If someone loves you, it should feel like they
love you. What a concept! Obvious, logical, rational, elementary
- like 'duh' of course it should."
"Far too often - because of the concept of toxic / addictive love we
are taught in this society - it is the idea of the other person that we
fall in love with, not the actual person. It is so important to us
to cast someone in the role of Prince or Princess that we focus on who
we want them to be - not on who they really are."
"In an emotionally honest society Dan Rather
would have been crying and sobbing on his own program - serving as a role
model for others - instead of keeping up appearances and stuffing his grief
until some of it leaked out on the David Letterman Show."
Empowerment
- A column about how owning the power of choice
can help move us out of the victim perspective. "As
just one small example of how pervasively we are trained to be victims,
consider how often you have said, or heard someone say, "I have to go to
work tomorrow." When we say "I have to" we are making a victim statement."
Self Worth -
Two excerpts from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded
Souls about True self-worth. "The
goal of this dance of Recovery is integration and balance. That means
celebrating being a tree while also glorying in being a part of the forest."
Emotional Incest
- Emotional incest is rampant in our emotionally dishonest society
and can be devastating to a persons ability to have healthy romantic relationships
- a column. "Emotional incest from either
parent is devastating to the child's ability to be able to set boundaries
and take care of getting their own needs met when they become an adult."
Emotional Defenses
- A column entitled The Journey to the Emotional Frontier Within
about some common emotional defense mechanisms. "Emotions
are energy. Actual physical energy that is manifested in our bodies.
Emotions are not thoughts - they do not exist in our mind."
Emotional Defenses
2 - Further Journeys to the Emotional Frontier Within,
a column about the emotional defense mechanism of story telling. "Perhaps
the most common story telling diversion is to get very involved in the
details of the story 'she said. . . . . then I said. . . . then she did.
. .'"
Stinking Thinking
- A column about the "stinking thinking" of Codependency + 2 hand
outs that I have always found insightful - The Rules for being Human and
Risking.
"Mind reading, fortune telling, assuming
- we think we can read other peoples minds and feelings, or foretell
the future, and then act as if what we assume is the reality. We
often create self-fulfilling prophecies this way."
Emotional Release Techniques
- A column about emotional energy release techniques, basically a
short version of what is written about deep grieving in the inner child
healing section. "It is vitally important
for us to own our right to be angry about what happened to us or about
the ways we were deprived. If we do not own our right to be angry about
what happened in childhood it greatly impairs our ability to set boundaries
as an adult."
Roles In Dysfunctional Families
- A column about the four basic Roles In Dysfunctional Families.
"This
child takes responsibility for the emotional well-being of the family.
They become the families 'social director' and/or clown, diverting the
family's attention from the pain and anger."
Holidays, Anniversaries, and
Birthdays - An article entitled Happy Holidays, Sad
Holidays about why holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays can be so tough
emotionally for most people.
"If I am feeling
hurt or scared or angry I will only share that with someone who is a safe
person to share with emotionally - that is, they won't discount and invalidate
my feelings or try to fix me."
Wounded Parents -
A column about how Fathers wound their daughters who become mothers that
wound their sons who become fathers. . . . "There
is an additional way in which women are wounded by their fathers that I
have never heard, or read, anyone talk about. It is a devastating
blow that many daughters suffer on a subconscious level."
Mothers - A column about
how a society that degrades and devalues women cannot possibly produce
healthy mothers. "'Poor' Adam, who was just
being a man (that is, he just wants to get in Eve's pants) does what Eve
wants him to and eats the apple. So Eve gets the blame for Adam not
having boundaries. Now is that stupid or what? And you wondered where
Codependence started."
Fathers - One of those
real personal columns, written for Father's Day about my father. "In
that first memory of my father, when I was just a little boy, what I feel
is absolute terror. As I sit here writing this, tears come to my
eyes because it is very sad that little boy was so terrified of his father."
The True Nature of Love - Part
1, what Love is not - The first of a series of online
columns about the True Nature of Love. "Like
most great insights, it was amazingly simple and obvious. It was
to me earth shattering/paradigm busting in it's impact. The insight
was: If someone loves you, it should feel like they love you.
What a concept! Obvious, logical, rational, elementary - like 'duh'
of course it should."
The True Nature of Love - Part
2, Love as Freedom - The second of the series. "Freedom
from shame. Freedom from judgment. Freedom from loneliness.
Freedom from feeling separate, different, not a part of, not acceptable.
Freedom from the endless, aching longing for something more. Freedom
from the hole in my soul - from the bottomless abyss of pain and shame
and sadness that I feel at the core of my being."
The True Nature of Love - Part
3, Love as a Vibrational Frequency - The third in the
series of online columns. "The dance
of life for humans has been grounded in shame and fear, empowered by belief
in separation, lack, and scarcity. These are lower vibrational emotions
and beliefs based on the three dimensional illusion that humans experience
as reality. As long as the dance of humans harmonizes to music -
vibrational emanations - that are rooted in shame, fear, and separation
the only way to do the dance is destructively."
The True Nature of Love - Part
4, Energetic Clarity - The fourth in the series of
online columns.
"The level that most people
are not aware of, and that is important for the focus of this column, is
energetically. When we give power away to other people because our
relationship with self is dysfunctional, we actually allow cords of energy
to tie us to those people. These cords (ribbons, cables, tethers,
threads, strands) of energy exist on the Etheric plane - which is where
the Life Force energy runs through the chakra system."
The True Nature of Love -
Part
5, Romantic Relationships - The fifth
of the series of online columns. "Everyone
has issues. You are never going to meet someone that does not show
some red flags. The goal is to be conscious and honest with ourselves
about those red flags and to not sell our self out because we want a relationship
in our life. Pay attention and be direct and honest with the other
person. Do not assume, interpret, or mind read - ask if you are not
clear."
The True Nature of Love - part 6, Twin
Souls, Souls Mates, and Kindred Spirits - The sixth
(and final) of the series of online columns. "My
quest to find some rational, logical way to explain how it is possible
that there exists a Loving Higher Power when all around me I saw suffering
and despair, unfairness and injustice, lead me to belief in reincarnation.
I could see no way that life could be ultimately Loving if we only experienced
one lifetime."
Attack
on America - A Spiritual Healing Perspective & Call for Higher
Consciousness - An online book sharing a Spiritual
perspective on the terrorist attack of Sept. 11th - and discussing the
event and it's aftermath as a manifestation of codependence, and an opportunity
for healing. "In an emotionally honest
society Dan Rather would have been crying and sobbing on his own program
- serving as a role model for others - instead of keeping up appearances
and stuffing his grief until some of it leaked out on the David Letterman
Show."
Attack
on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness Chapter
2 - Focuses on Polarity as the cause of the human condition,
and points out the toxic concept of God that is at the foundation of Islamic,
Judaic, and Christian civilization. "The
twisted, distorted beliefs of the Old Testament - with it's angry, judgmental,
vengeful male vision of God - are at the foundation of the beliefs, the
intellectual paradigm, that humans in Western Civilization have used to
define reality."
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter
3 - Addresses the responsibility that the United States of
America has in setting this dynamic in motion and the need of America to
take an honest inventory. "The United
States of America has a long history of supporting right-wing Fascist dictatorships
that slaughter, impoverish, and starve their own citizens. Muslims
did not just arbitrarily decide to designate the US as the enemy."
* Attack on America
- A Call for Higher Consciousness Chapter 4
- Deals with the masculine - feminine imbalance caused by planetary
conditions that led to abusive patriarchal societies. "Patriarchal
societies evolved to subjugate, demean, and suppress women because of male
insecurity and fear."
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter 5 - Calls on New Age gurus such as Marianne Williamson,
Neale Donald Walsch and James Redfield to please expand their consciousness
and stop putting out polarized, shaming messages. "A
great majority of New Age teachers and writers are still empowering polarity
and shame about human emotions by communicating this kind of message. .
. . PLEASE STOP IT!"
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter 6 - How to apply 12 step recovery principles in life to achieve
balance through emotional honesty and responsibility, and how the present
world situation is a reflection of the dynamics of codependency revealed
in Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
"I
used to get very upset in AA meetings when I would hear some emotionally
dishonest old timer pontificate about how fear was the absence of faith.
If
we did not feel fear we would not need faith!"
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter 7 - This is the Age of Atonement but it is not about judgment
and punishment - it is about tuning into Higher Consciousness.
"If god really is judgmental and punishing, I will find out soon enough
- that doesn't mean I have to let it mess up my life today."
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter 8 - Includes inner child healing article on Grieving
and talks about the importance of emotional healing from a Metaphysical
perspective. "Osama bin Laden turned
down his families offer of 20 billion dollars to return home and give up
this silly religious stuff. George W. Bush accepted his families
offer to return to the fold."
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter 9 - Focuses on grief energy on etheric plane and metaphysical
levels of the process including levels of consciousness in relationship
to chakras. "The rituals of blood sacrifice
in the United States include crack pipes and gang initiation. A Palestinian
who becomes a terrorist and a kid in South Central LA who joins a gang
are reacting to the same basic emotional wounds."
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter 10 - Includes article on Co-Creation and on recovery
as a process of finding balance. "In
many cases, people are overweight as a means of defending themselves because
of a history of heartbreak and/or sexual abuse. Often it is our fear
of intimacy that is at the core of weight problems."
Attack on America - A Call for Higher Consciousness
Chapter 11 - Summarizes book, looks at blood sacrifice from different
levels and shares how the New Age is the Second Coming of the message of
Love. "I am a messiah . . . and you
are messiahs also. . . All of the old souls who are doing this healing
are in the process of clearing their inner channels in order to access
the messiah energy, the Christ Consciousness energy, within."
Attack on America
Contents Page - A chapter summary of the book Attack on America
- A Spiritual Healing Perspective which is being published online as
it is written by Robert Burney, in the hope that it will help people to
respond personally to the terrorist attack of September 11, 2001 in way
that maximizes healing and aligns with Spiritual Truth, and to communicate
his belief that the Destruction of the World Trade Center and the terrorist
Attack presents us collectively with a heroic opportunity for healing
and Spiritual Awakening in the New Age that has dawned
in human consciousness.
