The most recent additions - including web articles on the inner child healing/codependency recovery process, twelve step Spirituality and New Age Metaphysics, and more, in addition to new links, testimonials, etc. - to the Joy2MeU web site of inner child healing pioneer Robert Burney (Spiritual Teacher / codependency counselor / grief therapist / author of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls) are announced on this New Page - as well as news of Robert and Joy to You & Me Enterprises.
New & News Page of Joy2MeU web site of Spiritual Teacher/codependency therapist
May 20th, 2013: I have added testimonials testimonials about the May workshop to the Intensive Testimonials page and am announcing a new Intensive date on September 29th, 2013.
April 21st, 2013: Special offers for my Inner Child Healing and/or Romantic Relationship books, on May 19th Intensive Training Workshop, on telephone counseling, and on MP3 downloads of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and recording of Life Changing workshop A Day Long Intensive Training in Robert Burney's Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing.
March 18th, 2013: I have added testimonials testimonials about the March workshop to the Intensive Testimonials page and am announcing a new Intensive date on August 18th, 2013.
February 26th, 2013: Announcing the publication of Robert’s newest eBook: The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real. This ebook is the follow up to The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted - and the two ebooks will be combined in one hard copy book. The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real is available in Amazon Kindle format as well as Barnes & Noble Nook format. Also posted a sale page for the March 17th Intensive Training Day.
February 24th, 2013: I have posted a page with a link to the official Co-Dependents Anonymous website with a list of Patterns & Characteristics of Codependence Am I Codependent. I have also extended my sale page with offers for my Romantic Relationships and Inner Child Healing books and the one for the MP3 downloads of Codependence The Dance of Wounded Souls and the recording of my Life Changing Workshop.
January 21st, 2012: I have added testimonials testimonials about the January workshop to the Intensive Testimonials page and am announcing a new Intensive date on
January 7th, 2012: Announcing the publication of Robert’s newest ebook: The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted. This eBook is available now in Amazon Kindle format.
This ebook is the first of two that will be combined and published as a hard copy book in February. In this one I am talking about what I see as misinterpretations and misunderstandings in the way the Law of Attraction is being taught that actually feed into people’s codependency. Here is a quote from the ebook about why I wrote it.
"I am publishing this book because I believe that the way the Law of Attraction is being taught by most people who are teaching it today is not ultimately Loving. I believe it is being taught in a way that makes many of the people hearing it feel ashamed; in a way that causes people to focus on reaching a destination at the expense of being present in the now; in a way that reinforces the delusion that there is something inherently wrong with being human, with human beings. It is also being taught by most spiritual teachers in a way that discounts and devalues emotions and emotional healing."
I address the emotional component in the second ebook - The Metaphysics of Emotions - which could be done this month but more likely February. I will then be publishing both ebooks in one paperback book: The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted A Larger Spiritual Paradigm - including The Metaphysics of Emotions.
This is a literal audio book with another narrator - not the audio that I did myself which was slightly abridged. I think that the narrator did a good job - but of course it doesn't have the passion and the points of emphasis that the one I did has. As one person's feedback stated:
"The audio version is absolutely a mind-blowing audio spiritual experience! You rock, man!! It's one thing to read the articles on the clinically electric computer screen and completely another level of involvement hearing the man himself utter his own words of wisdom and spiritual alchemy. One can tell that you aren't just mumbling through a book you've written; while listening it becomes certain that the message truly is your spiritual truth and not just some neatly packaged intellectual mind job disguising itself in spiritual language. An enormous THANK YOU for sharing your story and perspective for all the world to see, I truly appreciate it, man!"
The version that I did is for sale right now as an MP3 download.
December 3rd, 2012: I have added testimonials from October workshop to the Intensive Testimonials page and am announcing a new Intensive date on May 19, 2013.
November 15th, 2012: I did some redesign (and streamlining) of my Home Page and it is now possible to get financing from PayPal for my Empowering and Life Changing telephone counseling or Intensive Workshops.
October 15th, 2012: I have now made my newest book available on Barnes & Noble in the Nook application. It is divided between two eBooks: Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth Ebook 1 Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior & Ebook 2 Deeper Within (emotionally) & Further Out (metaphysically) From Fear of Intimacy to Twin Souls.
September 23rd, 2012: It is possible to purchase (for $8.95) a download recording of my interview that was part of the Mental Health Telesummit. I added the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below) - and the latest phone counseling testimonials on the Phone Counseling Testimonials page (some below.) I also added new links to the recommended Links page (also below) and updated my Finding CoDA Meetings page with a new site for CoDA Australia.
September 20th, 2012: My new book is now available: Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior
September 4th, 2012: The Kindle e-book of part 2 of my newest book Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth is now available: Deeper Within (emotionally) & Further Out (metaphysically) From Fear of Intimacy to Twin Souls
July 17th, 2012: Announcing the publication of my newest book - or at least the Kindle e-book version Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior. There are free Kindle Apps for your computer (Windows or Mac), for Tablets iPad or Android, for Smartphones iPhone & iPod Touch, Android, Windows Phone 7, or Blackberry - so even if you don't have a device you can get this e-book.
June 14th, 2012: Three new videos - excerpts from a recording of my Intensive Training Workshop have been posted on youtube: one in which I am talking about Positive Affirmations; one in which I am talking about Fear; and one in which I am talking about choosing to have a Relationship with a Powerful Higher Power in my recovery.
May 31st, 2012: In honor of the 26th anniversary of my Codependency recovery which will be June 3rd, I have posted a Anniversary Sale page with special offers on telephone counseling, my next Intensive, and both of my books - and I am also open to receiving financial gifts for my anniversary.:-) I have added testimonials from May workshop to the Intensive Testimonials page and am announcing a new Intensive date on October 28th (and changed the previously announced date from Sept. 2nd to August 26th.)
February 26th, 2012: My first Update Newsletter in more than a year is posted - and my Darien page has been updated (includes pictures from our wedding last year.) I have added testimonials from February workshop to the Intensive Testimonials page and am announcing a new Intensive date on July 15th.
December 25th, 2011: I have posted a special Holiday Sale page - with special offers on my Life Changing Books, phone counseling, and next Intensive Workshop - to commemorate my 28th Sobriety Birthday which will be on January 3rd. And I shared some thoughts and feelings about my recovery on my Working the Third Step page. I also added the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below) - and the latest phone counseling testimonials on the Phone Counseling Testimonials page (some below.)
September 18th, 2011: I have updated my Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving page which gives some history of my book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and explains how opening up to receive is aligning with Metaphysical Law. A more complete history of how I was led to write and publish The Dance is here.
July 23rd, 2011: Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light Book 1: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing (aka A Formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance) is now published and I will receive the first copies on July 27th.
July 15, 2011: My new book - the follow up to Dance of the Wounded Souls - is now available in e-book form (Amazon Kindle): Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light Book 1: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing (aka A Formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance) Amazon Kindle Book also Amazon UK and Amazon Germany It will be available in hard copy within a week or two - and I will send out an announcement to everyone when it is.
June 3, 2011:
Today is the 25th anniversary of my Codependency recovery. Announcing
a new CD set of
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls
with the digitally remastered sound quality and for the
first time a recording of my Intensive
Training Day Workshop is available
as an mp3 download along with a 42 page pdf Companion
May 12, 2011:
On Mother's Day I posted
a page with a story I wrote in 2002 for
my Mother on Mother's Day: The Baby Otter
~ A Mother's Day Story
January 12, 2011:
Susan & I are getting
married Friday!!! - I just posted my
Newsletter with the news. I also
posted a special
wedding offers page for my
phone counseling, workshop and books
for anyone who wants to show their support
by buying something - and a Wedding
Gifts Gratefully Accepted page for anyone that wants
to send us a wedding gift.
2010: On what is the 22nd
anniversary of a major milestone
on my Spiritual Path I am posting links
to two pages which recount some of the
miracles that have been part of my recovery
journey - both are excerpted from installments
of the story of my Spiritual Path in the Joy2Me Journal.
The first is part
of the Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for October
2005 simply title Miracles - and the second is the story of writing and
Dance of Wounded Souls Leap of Faith
Publishing The Dance (I share about August
14th 1988 in this story.) It
is important for me to remember the incredible
miracles that have been part of my path whenever
I am in a position where I am having to ask
for help - for another miracle.
July 4th, 2010:
added to the Intensive Testimonials page and announced a new date for an Intensive
on January 2, 2011. I have created
a new special
offer page that makes available
a combination of a subscription to Dancing
in Light (which includes
2 online books) and 3 copies of
my Joyously inspirational Spiritual book
The Dance of Wounded Souls for
anyone who wants to share my book with
friends or donate a copy to the local library
or whatever. I also added new links to
the recommended Links
below) and updated some links on my
Meetings page including a new url for
Area CoDA and updates
to my pages for North San
CoDA and San
Luis Obispo County CoDA.
June 15th, 2010:
I had a breakthrough about
my relationship with my father that
should help me open up to Love in a whole
new way - I added some processing to this
article I wrote 5 years ago: God the Father,
and my father. And I posted
the latest batch of testimonials
from people whose lives have been
changed by my book, tapes, CDs,
and website to the Testimonial
page (some below.)
February 21st, 2010: I
have added the testimonials from February
Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and am including
a link here now to page I added last
week after posting the announcement
below - it is an excerpt of the section
from the Darien page that shares
the huge breakthrough Susan and I had in our
relationship on a separate page: Valentine's
January 3rd, 2010: I added the testimonials from January Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and added a new page Working the Third Step as well as additional material to an existing page A Higher Power of my own understanding 2 - the beginning of empowerment to commemorate my 26th sobriety birthday today.
November 7th, 2009:
I continued a process I started in February of
removing blocking html code and updating copyright notice on my Update
Newsletter pages (something
I explained in my April 2009 Update
which also includes the story of
my April Fools Day lesson in falling
in love and a report about attending
the wedding of two people who announced
at the reception that without doing my
grief group together they wouldn't be getting
married) - and am listing some of them here
that have particularly interesting content:
Newsletter December 2003
I talk about how hard it can be to let
go; Update March 2004 - plus 2 additional pages - intense
about learning to open to love and metaphysical
aspects of the growth process; August
2004 challenging the Universe to bring on whatever lessons
I needed to learn to have a relationship; December
2004 sharing my views Christmas,
Jesus, and Christianity;
2005 includes The story of some incredible
Miracles in my recovery;
2006 review of 2005, a year of huge
change for me; March
2007 sharing about the Medicine Cards
and Masculine & Feminine with an additional
page of processing about my fear of intimacy;
and April 2008
in which I talk about the kind of wounding and deprivation
feelings that drive relationship addiction.
September 26th, 2009: Announcing the official launch of CodependenceRecovery.com our eighth new website, a new article added to Joy2MeU Emotional Incest Issues (new to this site - was formerly available on another site), new dates in 2010 for Intensive Training Day workshops on February 20th and April 3rd. Also the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below) - and the latest phone counseling testimonials on the Phone Counseling Testimonials page (some below.)
August 28th, 2009: The Joy2MeU Update Newsletter
for August 2009 is now online (and
includes latest addition
to Darien page) and also the Joy2MeU Journal
information page has been updated
with a special offer for a subscription
to The Joy2MeU Journal.
April 8, 2009: The
Newsletter is now posted:
Update April 2009
with news of a workshop in Akron
Ohio on May 9th and
I have posted a new page dedicated to my precious step
grandson and godson
February 3, 2009 New & news: I just updated the copyright notice on 27 of my Update Newsletter pages - up through June 2003. I also removed the code that blocked search engines from indexing those pages. I had blocked them at the time because there was some very personal processing I was doing in some of those Newsletters. There is some valuable sharing that I do in many of them that you might want to check out - especially: October 2000 + Part 2; May 2001 + 3 newsletter pages; January 2002 + 2 newsletter pages; August 2002: November 2002: June 2003 + 2 newsletter pages. All of the Updates are listed at the bottom of the site index page and anyone who wanted to trace the evolution of this site - as well as my personal recovery process over those years - would find reading them through interesting and valuable.
January 4, 2009
New & news: a new introduction to the Alcoholism and Twelve
a link to a radio interview I did on Dec. 30th, and a new picture
of us at a
Christmas party below.
October 30, 2008
New & News: Announcing the launch of two new web sites: Robert Burney Live.com
Souls.com. For the
first time Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls is
available in e-book form through
the new sites - and a digitally remastered
MP3 download Codependence: The
of Wounded Souls "An
Audio Spiritual Experience"
is also available for
the first time. Also
The Dance of Wounded Souls
is now available through
Amazon.com Kindle books program.
April 8, 2006 - New: The e-books that were formerly sold by Suite101 are now available on these pages: Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior and Inner Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past
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Newest: 9-23-12 (I have added a new batch of testimonials but am only including a few of quotes from them here - to read more go to the testimonials page)
"Your books are two of the most important books I have ever read. The advice has been life changing - thank you."
"I have seen a number of therapists/counselors over the years, but have not learned as much about my situation as I did reading your website for about 6 hours during a sleepless night last week! found your website extremely informative and rather quite AMAZING!"
this article http://joy2meu.com/Fear_of_Intimacy.html
on your website today. I found it to be the most enlightening
piece of writing, all that you wrote about rang true for me.
It has already made a huge positive difference to the way I feel
about myself and my hope to be a more 'real' person in the future."
"I received your book yesterday. I read it in one go. It is
a beautiful, courageous piece of work and am in debt to
you for sharing this wisdom."
"Your books do something completely different. You have literally
changed the way I think AS I have read your books. It just
clicks, flawlessly. I am a completely different person than
I was a month ago. Every day I grow and change for the better.
Thank you, thank you, a million times."
"I read your book on healing the inner child.
The last one. (Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light
Book 1 Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through
Inner Child Healing) I've only just come across
your work in the last month and i ve benefitted so much from
your wisdom and insight i want to thank you and express my heartfelt
(was crying a lot) gratitude that now I feel I’m not a total
mystery to myself any more. "
know who you are, but I ran across your website at a very
pivotal moment in my life. You are wise. The universe
works in wild ways. I am forever changed by your words.
"Your web site has touched and inspired me. I am so grateful for
"Thank you for helping me understand myself and what I needed
to do to change myself. You are the bright start that guided
me through trouble waters. Now everything is harmonious. I
am Eternally grateful to you "
"I have been doing a lot of reading on your website and let's just say- in a matter of a weeks time- all of your insight has helped me tremendously. Thank you Robert! I am very thankful for coming across your site.""I just finished reading your book Codependence:The Dance of Wounded Souls. What an excellent read. Very helpful in my work with clients."
To read some more of the wonderful feedback go to Testimonials page
Latest Phone Counseling Feedback
"I just wanted to say that Robert is an amazing counselor, and he
knows how to truly listen, which is a gift very very few
people possess. His phone counseling is life changing and
worth far more than he charges. Thanks again, to a very gifted
"My telephone sessions with you in 2010 was one of the the best
investment in myself I ever made! Thank you for providing the tools to unravel
the threads and knots of codependency which literally held me in bondage.
My inner child healing allowed me to discover that i AM my best friend and
my "girl scout troop" of inner children are my playmates, charges and helpers.
As I listen to them and care for myself, I have peace, joy, love and freedom
like never before!! I've discovered that I can trust myself, I have insightful
intuition and I have a keen "bullshit" detector which keeps me out of harm's
way in mind, body and spirit. No more a victim, I am truly a powerful creator
and joyful participant in my life!” - Posted on Facebook 7/2/12
"I wanted to tell you thank you for all your help and guidance over
the last few years. I never would have been where
I am without you. The engagement has made me very sentimental
of all the growth and change and how differently I am able to
be a part of this relationship than anything i have done before.
It is absolutely amazing."
"I hope you don't feel embarrassed but I'm just so happy that you
exist! At most difficult times, if only I remember to think
about you, I feel better. You know why? Because I know you've
been through it all and thus I don't feel alone. It is not common
to give positive feedback (not here anyway (Finland)) but I think it is important
to do so. I hope you think so too. I am glad you were born."
"From the bottom of my heart, thank you my Soul Brother for being
such an inspiration to me as well as many others. May you
be richly blessed in all goodness...& For those of you
struggling with issues in your life, I wholeheartedly endorse
Robert Burney. His approach to counseling is healing the inner
child through identifying codependency issues. In 2010
I worked with Robert and it was one of the best investments I ever
made in myself...truly changed my life!"
"I have gained tremendously from learning from you over the last
5 months. I've never read anything you have written that
I don't agree with and I now have the confidence to write about
it myself." (Someone who completed my
"I've found our sessions and your work to be extremely valuable
to me in my codependency recovery process and I want to
continue this inner work. I look forward to moving forward
with my recovery and to continuing to experience the benefits
of your work/wisdom. Thank you for your support so far on
On the beach in Cambria January 2010.
Susan Hinesley November 2009
Darien and "Papa" Fathers Day 2009
My lady and I on October 29, 2005
October 2005 on the day I spoke at the Bay Area CoDA Conference in San Francisco.
A look of bliss ~ Christmas 2009
To find out more about the story of the exhuberant, precious source of Joy running down the sidewalk on the left you can check out my web page about my precious step grandson and godson Darien.
Christmas 2005 - My precious step grandson / godson Darien with his Mom Rose and Dad John.
Darien and Grandpa Robert in Monterey on way home from first Intensive in San Francisco April 2006.
Darien when he was a little guy.
I have added another set of interesting, intriguing and eclectic links - I recommend these sites because I believe they have value - and in some case because they offer interesting alternative perspectives. I do not necessarily endorse or agree with the views they express. (The words in quotes are their words.):
Recovery Connection "Recovery Connection has been helping thousands of people find alcohol and drug addiction treatment and detox since 2005. We are dedicated to providing addicts, alcoholics, and their loved ones with answers to addiction and treatment questions, and in locating an alcohol and drug treatment center."
Support Groups.com A site that looks like it has support groups and articles for almost everything you could think of - looks like a good resource.
Drug Treatment_Centers.net "Treatment-Centers.net is a community based public-benefit website devoted to helping individuals and families find help for addiction and dual diagnosis. Our site contains the largest and most comprehensive publicly rated and reviewed directory of addiction treatment centers in existence.”"
RehabInfo.net "Our mission is to edcuate our visitors through research-based, expert written content. We are dedicated to providing comprehensive information about addiction, treatment options and the path to full recovery."
Samhsa Facility Locator Behavioral Health Treatment Services Locator Sponsored by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)
DrugAlert.org Keeping an Eye on Prescription Medication “DrugAlert.org is a comprehensive database featuring information and news alerts about potentially dangerous drugs currently on the market or previously available worldwide. The Web site is dedicated to keeping the public informed about drug recalls, side effects, and pending litigation associated with various drugs and their manufacturers.”
Rehab-Programs.org Another directory of Rehab / Treatment Programs - but his one includes some interesting widgets like this one that can be used to put up a counter to tell how many days sober you are or this one a personal 12 step pledge generator.
Treadmill-world This is a site for exercise equipment including Treadmills and exercise bikes etc. - but they have quite a number of articles on healthy habits, eating disorders, exercise addiction, etc. Looks like a good resource.
oneADDplace “Welcome to the ADD & ADHD resource place. You will find information on both child and adult attention deficit disorders and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder here. Learn the ADD and ADHD symptoms and how to test for them and discover the latest natural treatments, pharmaceutical medications and medicines, and brain science.”
Art from the Heart Lisa Wray art online - nourishment for the Spirit. An artist with Serenity Prayer, Reiki, Universal Truth, Archangel, etc. etc., art - beautiful work.
Angel Jewelry Angel Jewelry, Necklaces, Angel & Archangel Pendants in Silver, Gold and Glorious Gemstones "I am a grateful co-dependent, creating and living a dream to bring about awareness and healing for souls like us by making wonderful powerful healing Angel jewelry and by writing about love and life and joy in recovery from co-dependency."
Los Angeles Recovery Guide "The Los Angeles Recovery Guide is a comprehensive directory of sober events in the Los Angeles area. Considered one of the best cities in the world for twelve-step fellowship, The Los Angeles Recovery Guide gives you an inside look into what's going on and where it's happening. LA has over 1500 meetings a week; our detailed meeting directory is a quick and easy stop to find the one that's right for you."
To see more recommended links, go to Links page.
Lin at Penmarric web site has sent 4 awards for Joy2MeU.com including this one (YANA stand for You Are Not Alone) and says, "You will find 2 other awards also. One is the YANA [you are not alone] award from my Hugs R us site. This is unrated, and offered to excellent websites like yours, that have a basic mental health theme, and yours certainly qualifies. I am still working my way through it. You have done a wonderful job of putting 'it' all down for your readers and I commend you for your hard work and sincerity. This is my first YANA of 2006. You will also find my Whimsy award, also non-rated, that I give [on a whim] to websites that I personally like. WOW! I am really at a loss for words - unusual for those who know me. I find great strength reading your pages. They are truly inspirational, and I thank you for writing them."
To see the other 3 awards and several dozen other beautiful awards my site has been awarded go to my Awards page.
12/30/12 - I haven't applied for any awards for many years now.
I. Thou shalt not consort with people who make thee feel bad about thyself.
Also includes: The Rules for Being Human and Risking.
"It is OK to be relaxed, playful, and frivolous"
Some versions of the Serenity Prayer, a Personal Bill of Rights, Characteristics of Adults Shamed in Childhood, and some possible signs of Hidden Anger.
1. All or nothing. Looking at things in absolute, black and white categories -"Either / or" thinking.
Also includes: One Day at a Time, As a Person I have the Right to, and a discussion of some metaphysical levels of The Growth / Recovery Process.
7-16-12 Announcing the publication of my newest
book - or at least the Kindle e-book version (hopefully
the hard copy by the end of the month) Romantic
Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual
& Emotional Growth Codependent Dysfunctional
Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior.
Newest book Kindle: Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth (Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior) Part 2 of my newest book Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth is now available: Deeper Within (emotionally) & Further Out (metaphysically) From Fear of Intimacy to Twin Souls
Also available on Barnes & Noble in the Nook application. Ebook 1 Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior & Ebook 2 Deeper Within (emotionally) & Further Out (metaphysically) From Fear of Intimacy to Twin Souls.
Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light
Book 1: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing