December 11, 2007 New & News: The December Update Newsletter with news of a new Counselor Training Program is now online. 

November 21, 2007 New & News: I updated the Special Offers page with some new Holiday Special Offers for Recovering Codependents - featuring offers that include the Dancing in Light section of my site in combination with Telephone Counseling sessions - and with my Intensive Training Day workshop (and announced on that page that I will be raising telephone counseling rates on January 30th.).  I am also putting the full text of the Author's Foreword to Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light  Book 2 A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life back on the regular site (not sure why I took it off in the first place.;-) I added The latest batch of heart warming feedback to the Testimonial page for my book, tapes, CDs, and website (some below), new Phone Counseling Testimonials (some below), and added some new recommended Links page (below.) 

June 25, 2006 - News: The page with ordering info for new CD version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is now online. 

April 8, 2006 - New: The e-books that were formerly sold by Suite101 are now available on these pages: Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior and Inner Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past

"I have been searching for so long for an answer and when I found your site I was so excited I cried. . . . I have never felt so peaceful in my life though and I have hope."

"thank you so very much your book has touched my life greatly, I have been recommending it to everyone I know."

"Thanks for the amazing work you have done on your own recovery and for your courage in sharing that process with other sufferers. . . . I have already gained a new perspective on my life and some hope for a different future from the material you have provided."

"It feels like a miracle that I found your site."

"Just wanted to say, brilliant work. My wife and I are both incest and child abuse survivors and learning what weíve learnt from your website has pushed our individual recoveries far further along than we could have previously imagined. . .  made this posting on survivors forum:  I would recommend that everyone on this site and any other abuse, mental/emotional health, Alcoholics Anonymous, Al Anon, Gamblers Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, BPD, Victims of Domestic Violence websites etc start learning about the true definition, the true nature of codependancy and itís causes and effects. I would recommend the first place to start is a site called www.joy2meu.com  I donít think there is anybody else who has been able to gather all the information and demonstrate it verbally or in print as well as the man who created this site."

"I cannot even begin to express how much your writing has profoundly impacted my life." 

"I had never before reading your website connected "Wounded Inner Child" as a form of PTSD .... it makes incredible sense, and I will certainly keep it in mind in my counseling work....and in my own life!"

"Since I have found the website, joy2meu, I have been profoundly enlightened"

"I have spent a lot of time on your website the past month and recently purchased your book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.  I absolutely loved it.  I can not thank you enough for your work.  Thank you for opening up your heart and soul.  Reading your book and the writing on your website has brought me so much peace and comfort at a time when I needed it most."

"You have no idea how deeply you have touched me! . . . I just wanted to say Thank You for putting your experiences out there for others to find and use to their benefit."

"I would like to express my gratitude to you for your website. . . . I wrote, mainly, to let you know that your site, your words, your insight, your guidance served as footprints next to me in the sand tonight."

"I absolutely thank you from the bottom of my heart for having your writings online and accessible to all, it's a beautiful gift to your fellow mankind and is so helpful."

"I love your book--I think it is genius"

"I just wanted to send a small note to thank you for taking the time and effort to explain so thoroughly this "void" that I have lived with my entire life. . . For the first time in my 45 years did I have a clue what was going on in my brain, my body and with my emotions. My God, who knew. It all makes perfect sense now. For the first time in my life I feel peace. I am actually excited about learning and healing the part of me that has confused me for so long. I am now in the process of reading and living your pages on healing my inner child. Again, thank you for making this information available and changing my life."

"Thank you for your exceptionally useful, wise and insightful site, Joy2MeU. . . the content of the site is adult, well researched and deeply meaningful."

"What a great heart you have. I feel really lucky to have found you and your work."

"Thank-you for everything you have posted on your website!!!  Your revelations you have typed about Co-Dependency are truly already transforming me, and truly truly I am full of joy for finding this, and giving all the glory to my beautiful God!!!"

"Thank you very much for sharing on your web pages. I found the way you write so honestly about your own experience very moving, and there was so much I could identify with."

"I guess I just want to say thank you for your site; it has helped me in so many ways.  Most importantly, it clarifies all the work that I've been doing over the past 14 years...I'm finally understanding and forgiving. Again, thank you so very, very much!"

"I have been tirelessly reading your online articles and they have been of great help to my healing.  I find myself emerging from suffering and confusion into happiness, understanding and serenity. It must be an amazing feeling to know that you have brought peace and happiness to so many."

"My soul led me to your site - I am completely wow'd."

"Thanks for the richness of your website. I almost could heal with just that."

"This is the best book I have ever came across dealing with these issues... it feeds my soul. I can't think of a better description."

Latest Phone Counseling Feedback (4-9-08) 
"You might not remember me. We have worked together briefly in 2005 on telephone counseling, but I had never left your website since I discovered it "by accident" on google in 2004. You have changed my life in ways you might not understand, and I thank The Almighty to have made it possible for our paths to cross. Many things happened in my life since we last spoke, some were good others bad. But thanks to you I had acquired the wisdom and strenght to carry on and most of all, be easy on myself and remind myself that "that too shall pass".  I took care of all my children (inner children, that is) and I reassured them that I will take care of them thru the storm. They all say thank you, too.

Robert, you are always in my thoughts and prayers, especially those prayers of thankgiving. I talk about you to my friends, some think that you are a personal friend and I tell them that you are my God-sent. He/She had sent you into my life to remind me who I already was and had always been, and for that you are my Best Friend. Thank you for being you, thank you for being my teacher and guide, and hopefully soon enough I will resume working with you."

"I wonder if you remember me...I was your client back in 2004 and 2005...I just wanted to write to you and let you know that since our work together, I have continued my healing journey and it has led me to some very interesting places in the world and inside myself.... Over and over I come back to your work to remind myself of the TRUTH that your work continues to ignite in my heart."

"Thank you for all your help this year!!  You really have brought so much to my life, and I am grateful."

"I am in the best relationship of my lifeówith a man who has worked hard to heal himself and is on the same path as I. Together, our power to be strong and truthful and loving is the most beautiful thing I have ever known (along with my love for my son). Thanks to you, and some wisdom of yours, I was able to stay strong and work hard until I found him and together we still stay strong. Wow, I reached the mountaintop and its great up here! Hard to get to but so simple once you do!"

"I appreciate ALL that you do for all of us who have been fortunate enough to cross your path...I see it as an authentic and loving soul expression...your kindness and generosity are helping to heal us all one by one."

"I can see this relationship for what was as more and more is being revealed along this journey.  That would not be the case if I had not come across your work. It was no coincidence.  More is revealed when we are ready and open to understanding. . . . I wrote this in a time period  when I was desperately struggling to find the answers within me. I knew that that is where they are. But, I did not have the tools to do it before I cam across your work. I am going in the right direction now.  Thank you for touching my life in a positive way."

"I credit you with starting me on my journey toward discovering that I am a spiritual being have a human experience."

"I've owned 2 copies of the book and gave them away to a friend and a relative. I thought they could use the help.  Im feeling joyful and thankful everyday.  I continue to pass on to others what I've learned from you.  It continues to make a difference in my life, so Thank you!"

"I have not contacted you in awhile. we did a few phone counseling sessions in the past and I have emailed you from time to time. I wanted to wish you a Happy Holiday. Your website has guided me on my path of trusting the universe. It makes sense out of the nonsense and I am grateful for you. So again thank you."

Someone wrote me asking if I knew I was Sufi - and suggesting some links. These are two of them:
Wahidudin's Web "On these pages you'll find a variety of resources  for inner exploration, spiritual inspiration and  heart-felt devotion... all dedicated to a life of  Love, Harmony and Beauty."

Sufi Order International "Our Activities, Prayers, History, and Traditions, Frequently Asked Questions"

Unite-us.com "Unite-us.com is a meeting place and informative website for everyone interested in non-mainstream news, archeology, nature, health, the universe and spiritual subjects.  What you will find in the Unite-us section of this website is not about different ideas, theories or beliefs, but about facts en the pure truth of All that Is.  A truth which is experienced when we approach the world consciously from the Heart.  This is the path of awakening, of light, love and becoming conscious."

The Hoffman Process is one that has been very helpful to some people I have worked with - with releasing emotional programming. "Emotional learning that occurred early in our lives largely shapes our adult experiences. Whether we are aware of it or not, our very sense of self is more strongly influenced by early life conditioning than most of us ever imagine."

MyAddiction.com  "We understand and acknowledge the nature of addiction as a treatable disease, with its own set of discernible symptoms and therapies.  Here you can find up-to-date news, comprehensive information, and treatment options for addiction."

Women Helping Women "News and Support for Female Gamblers in Recovery."

Weight Loss for Life "What if you could experience Weight Loss, and keep it off for Life?"

SoulfulLiving.com "Living fully every day.  A large site with many resources for Personal and Spiritual Growth."

Catharsis Foundation "Surviving Child Abuse - Recovery & Research  Exposure & Disclosure"

Emotional Competency.com "Developing the essential social skills to recognize, interpret, and respond constructively to emotions in yourself and others."

Broken Heart "Providing quick help for you to heal a broken heart. This website will give you simple tips to help you get through."

"The Affair Recovery Center is a partnership of counseling professionals dedicated to the restoration of marriages crippled by infidelity."

Our Journey To The Sky A Guide to the Process of Spiritual Formation  "What is spirituality?  Some people do not realize that it is a personal, inner relationship with Life." 

Here are a couple of potentially very useful e-books: Natural Cancer Treatments and Cure Your Asthma

Journeys-by-Design "Guided Metaphysical Tours and Explorations"

To see more recommended links, go to Links page.

I.  Thou shalt not consort with people who make thee feel bad about thyself. 

Also includes: The Rules for Being Human and Risking. 

The Serenity Prayer for Codependents

"It is OK to be relaxed, playful, and frivolous" 

Some versions of the Serenity Prayer, a Personal Bill of Rights, Characteristics of Adults Shamed in Childhood, and some possible signs of Hidden Anger. 

Twisted Codependent thinking

1. All or nothing. Looking at things in absolute, black and white categories -"Either / or" thinking. 

I also decided to add a link here to each one of them for the one book I believe that all recovering codependents should have.  The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie is a great daily meditation book that is full of Love and great insight.  A invaluable resource in recovery. 

Amazon.com is the only one of these sources that carries my book - something that I explain on my Future Publications page.
 

Amazon.com	Amazon.ca (Canada)	Amazon.co.uk
The Language of Letting Go	The Language of Letting Go	The Language of Letting Go