New & News Page of Joy2MeU web site of Spiritual Teacher/codependency therapist

June 3, 2011: Today is the 25th anniversary of my Codependency recovery.  Announcing a new CD set of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls with the digitally remastered sound quality and for the first time a recording of my Intensive Training Day Workshop is available as an mp3 download along with a 42 page pdf Companion Guide.

May 12, 2011: On Mother's Day I posted a page with a story I wrote in 2002 for my Mother on Mother's Day: The Baby Otter ~ A Mother's Day Story

January 12, 2011: Susan & I are getting married Friday!!! - I just posted my latest Update Newsletter with the news.  I also posted a special wedding offers page for my phone counseling, workshop and books for anyone who wants to show their support by buying something - and a Wedding Gifts Gratefully Accepted page for anyone that wants to send us a wedding gift.

August 14th, 2010: On what is the 22nd anniversary of a major milestone on my Spiritual Path I am posting links to two pages which recount some of the miracles that have been part of my recovery journey - both are excerpted from installments of the story of my Spiritual Path in the Joy2Me Journal.  The first is part of the Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for October 2005 simply title Miracles - and the second is the story of writing and publishing Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance (I share about August 14th 1988 in this story.)  It is important for me to remember the incredible miracles that have been part of my path whenever I am in a position where I am having to ask the Universe for help - for another miracle.

August 3rd, 2010: Updated my special offers page and made separate pages for offers for phone counseling and for my Intensive Training Day workshop.

July 4th, 2010: I have added to the Intensive Testimonials page and announced a new date for an Intensive on January 2, 2011.  I have created a new special offer page that makes available a combination of a subscription to Dancing in Light (which includes 2 online books) and 3 copies of my Joyously inspirational Spiritual book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls for anyone who wants to share my book with friends or donate a copy to the local library or whatever. I also added new links to the recommended Links page (also below) and updated some links on my Finding CoDA Meetings page including a new url for Bay Area CoDA and updates to my pages for North San Diego County CoDA and San Luis Obispo County CoDA.

June 15th, 2010: Yesterday I had a breakthrough about my relationship with my father that should help me open up to Love in a whole new way - I added some processing to this article I wrote 5 years ago: God the Father, and my father.   And I posted the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below.)

May 5th, 2010: I have posted a much overdue Update Newsletter May 2010 and a new page offering the Wounded Souls Trilogy.

February 21st, 2010: I have added the testimonials from February Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and am including a link here now to page I added last week after posting the announcement below - it is an excerpt of the section from the Darien page that shares the huge breakthrough Susan and I had in our relationship on a separate page: Valentine's Day 2010.

February 14th, 2010: I have added the latest pictures and stories about my precious step grandson and godson Darien - and added some new pictures of us to this New & news page (below.)  Also have added the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below.)

January 3rd, 2010: I added the testimonials from January Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and added a new page Working the Third Step as well as additional material to an existing page A Higher Power of my own understanding 2 - the beginning of empowerment to commemorate my 26th sobriety birthday today.

November 7th, 2009: I continued a process I started in February of removing blocking html code and updating copyright notice on my Update Newsletter pages (something I explained in my April 2009 Update which also includes the story of my April Fools Day lesson in falling in love and a report about attending the wedding of two people who announced at the reception that without doing my grief group together they wouldn't be getting married) - and am listing some of them here that have particularly interesting content:  Update Newsletter December 2003 I talk about how hard it can be to let go;  Update March 2004 - plus 2 additional pages - intense personal processing about learning to open to love and metaphysical aspects of the growth process;  August 2004 challenging the Universe to bring on whatever lessons I needed to learn to have a relationship;   December 2004 sharing my views Christmas, Jesus, and Christianity;   October 2005 includes The story of some incredible Miracles in my recovery;  January 2006 review of 2005, a year of huge change for me; March 2007 sharing about the Medicine Cards and Masculine & Feminine with an additional page of processing about my fear of intimacy; and April 2008 in which I talk about the kind of wounding and deprivation feelings that drive relationship addiction.

September 26th, 2009: Announcing  the official launch of CodependenceRecovery.com our eighth new website, a new article added to Joy2MeU Emotional Incest Issues (new to this site - was formerly available on another site), new dates in 2010 for Intensive Training Day workshops on February 20th and April 3rd.  Also the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below) - and the latest phone counseling testimonials on the Phone Counseling Testimonials page (some below.)

August 28th, 2009: The Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for August 2009 is now online (and includes latest addition to Darien page) along with a page with Temporary Special Offers only good until September 7th 2009.  Also the Joy2MeU Journal information page has been updated with a special offer for a subscription to The Joy2MeU Journal.

May 25th, 2009: A new website officially launched: HealYourInnerChild.com and on May 29th I will be doing an interview on the Monda Williams show on blogtalkradio.

April 8, 2009:  The latest Update Newsletter is now posted: Joy2MeU Update April 2009 with news of a workshop in Akron Ohio on May 9th and I have posted a new page dedicated to my precious step grandson and godson Darien.

February 3, 2009 New & news:  I just updated the copyright notice on 27 of my Update Newsletter pages - up through June 2003.  I also removed the code that blocked search engines from indexing those pages.  I had blocked them at the time because there was some very personal processing I was doing in some of those Newsletters.  There is some valuable sharing that I do in many of them that you might want to check out - especially: October 2000 + Part 2;  May 2001 + 3 newsletter pages;  January 2002 + 2 newsletter pages;  August 2002:   November 2002:   June 2003 + 2 newsletter pages. All of the Updates are listed at the bottom of the site index page and anyone who wanted to trace the evolution of this site - as well as my personal recovery process over those years - would find reading them through interesting and valuable.

January 4, 2009 New & news:  a new introduction to the Alcoholism and Twelve Step Recovery index page, a link to a radio interview I did on Dec. 30th, and a new picture of us at a Christmas party below.

November 8, 2008 New &  News:  Two new articles posted: The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted and The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real.

October 30, 2008 New & News:  Announcing the launch of two new web sites: Robert Burney Live.com and Wounded Souls.com.  For the first time Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is available in e-book form through the new sites - and a digitally remastered  MP3 download Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is also available for the first time.  Also Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is now available through Amazon.com Kindle books program.

April 8, 2006 - New: The e-books that were formerly sold by Suite101 are now available on these pages: Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior and Inner Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past

"G'day Robert, Just felt the need to tell you that I can't leave you (your work) alone lol, Your words are now my driving force for life, and I thankyou again.  Discovering you on the internet is The Greatest Single Gift I have ever given myself :) :) :)"

"I've read your pages on your website.  I find them very helpful.  I believe that you have a "truth that sets people free"."

"This book has restored my faith in human nature and given me permission to take care of myself. After using it for many years there is always something new to learn. Bless you Robert."

"Thank You for your work. Your awareness and your sharing saved my life."

"I have followed your work from the beginning days. You probably don't recall because of the numbers of people you meet, but I worked for John Bradshaw in 1989,90,& 91, setting up workshops in California. I have probably all of his tapes from those days, but I think your work is far better. Thank you for what you have done for recovery."

"I cannot began to thank you enough for the insight and knowledge you have provided on your site. . . You have validated my core existence that to desire for more in life is in fact a rare but wonderful gift of few. For I am not alone."

"Hi Robert, Read your article Fear of Intimacy.  It's a really super and fabulous write up! Not only in content and writing but your style matches a Hesse or a Kerouac !  Extremely Impressive!"

"You have touched my heart with your wisdom. I love your website & I am finally beginning to heal ...my inner child. Thank you doesn't even seem to express how grateful I am to have found your words. May you be blessed!"

"I finished reading your book a few weeks ago and have wanted to thank you so much for writing it. It was truly beautiful and inspiring!"

"I just wanted to let you know that I love your joy2meu website and find the information incredibly helpful.  I love that you incorporate the metaphysical aspects and take it to a new level. Your experience and knowledge is totally enlightening and helpful on so many levels. So thanks so much for sharing what you know."

"Your work has been so important on my path and I am so grateful to get to read your posts on Facebook everyday. I hope you and your family are doing well.""

"Your book saved me from the depths of my dispair, and my life has new direction and purpose now. Blessings on you and your beautiful wife. I can never thank you enough.""

"Your website has been the greatest/best thing to come to me from the internet."

"I just read your article on " Setting personal boundaries - protecting self".   I just wanted to say I found it very inspiring and informative. It gave me lots of hands-on tips on how to deal with a lot of "stuff" in my personal life at the moment. I really appreciate that you took the time to post it online."

"I LOVE your website articles!  Oh, what passion and honesty!"

"Your sharing made a difference in my life at a point in time when I needed to hear what you said.  I thank God for you and for your willingness to share you information freely on your website"

"Your site alone is one of the most helpful I have come across. Everything you say MAKES SENSE! Thanks for doing what you do :) "

"Its due to your literature that i am enjoying life to the fullest these days."

"Thanx for your inspirational writing, I'mm recommending you to everyone on 'In the Rooms""

"I wanted to thank you so much for writing those articles. you really help me understand this whole process better and thank you for being so honest and open and helping me connect to you. "

Latest Phone Counseling Feedback (12-25-11) 

"Thank you so much for your counseling sessions.  You made a lot of sense and made me feel better.  You offered very helpful ways to help me feel better about myself and ways to live life with more joy and peace.

You have been such a marvellous guide on my path, with your humannes, authenticity, humbleness, wisdom and love. You have given me such an extraordinary and beautiful rolemodel. You saved me at the very most difficult phase of my adult life, when I had fallen apart. I feel so much love and gratitude for you! You will always stay in my heart. I am eternally grateful."

"i HIGHLY recommend Robert's book and counseling! I really can't say enough about how helpful and instrumental were his teaching and counsel to provide me the tools, inspiration and perspective to break free from codependency which was SO pe...rvasive in my life. . . With Robert's teachings, my life opened up in ways I never thought possible. . . Robert's teachings help to empower people with Truth, to embolden in order to find our own Way, and to release us from bondages of grief, anger and fear. The work is not easy; it requires sincerity, perseverance, rigorous honesty and the willingness to change, adapt and grow. ALL worth it in my book!!!!!

Thank you Robert from the bottom of my heart for your generous spirit and willingness to offer guidance through your own life wisdom to others. My Spiritual Brother, you helped to change my life. I am grateful for the gift you are in my life."

"I have to tell you...my phone sessions with YOU. . . and your book, have helped change my "thinking" more than I ever dreamed. I am so very grateful for the AWARENESS...  of so many things that YOU made me aware of...then: YOU taught me how to ACCEPT and then move on to ACTION. . . and now my life is so different! . . YOU help me put into ACTION the things I read about and talk about with other codependents. THANK YOU"

". . . Our (phone) sessions and the intensive training really changed my life for the better."

"You helped change my life during a year of phone conversations.....THANKS"

"I worked with you via phone . . . I went to your workshops at LAX (this was in 2006) when I lived in El Segundo.  I learned so much from you! . .  I feel so blessed to have crossed paths with you."

 "I have been in recovery for awhile now and know how to use the tools I have been given, but I still find the phone sessions quite valuable.  I didn't have a voice when I was a child and when I did speak I was not heard.  The phone sessions with Robert allow my inner kids to kick, scream, swear, grieve, and to be heard by someone that is willing to listen and that truly cares.  I always feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders at the end of the session."

"Your guidance has allowed for much success in my life since we last spoke in the summer."

". .  . thank you for the gift of being there at a perfect time in my life."

I.  Thou shalt not consort with people who make thee feel bad about thyself. 

Also includes: The Rules for Being Human and Risking. 

The Serenity Prayer for Codependents

"It is OK to be relaxed, playful, and frivolous" 

Some versions of the Serenity Prayer, a Personal Bill of Rights, Characteristics of Adults Shamed in Childhood, and some possible signs of Hidden Anger. 

Twisted Codependent thinking

1. All or nothing. Looking at things in absolute, black and white categories -"Either / or" thinking.